“…look a little closer, stare a little longer, because there’s something inside you that made you keep trying despite everyone who told you to quit.” Those words are part of a poem by Shane Koyczan. The poem is called, To This Day…for the bullied and beautiful.
Hearing Shane recite his poem is like being on a roller coaster. It’s thrilling and scary. One has no idea when the next turn, drop, dip or fall will come. The anticipation of the next phrase or line is so exciting. How was Shane able to write with humor about being self conscious when describing his dreams, hopes and desires? Just listen.
Many people enter therapy because they are feeling anxious or depressed. It can be difficult to describe feelings. I have had clients bring in books, photographs, drawings and other items to explain to me their traumas. I hope that listening to Shane recite his poem will help you feel less alone. I hope that after listening, you will know that there are others who have experienced grief, shame and/or disappointment.
What I also find inspiring about this poem is the encouragement to go on with life despite it’s disappointments. The next time you want to explain similar feelings, but don’t have the words, share this video. It may help others understand a part of you and open up a dialogue to help you to feel heard.
If you would like to talk about this poem or your struggles with me, I would be happy to hear from you. Feel free to contact me here.