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A Life Less Ordinary

Below is a video called, Happy Life by Moje Bory. In it, the Dalai Lama LEH, INDIA - AUGUST 5, 2012: His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama gispeaks about being only one person out of billions and says that all people just want to be happy. Along with his wise words, Dinah Washington sings This Bitter Earth. While all of this is happening, there is video footage of Europe (Poland, I think). There is nothing extraordinary about the footage- unless you look and you listen. There are children playing, people talking, animals napping, insects crawling and many other things are happening. What the viewer sees are ordinary days but they are also extraordinary.

Happy Life uplifts my spirits and makes me think. My hope in sharing it with you, is that you will have the same experience. Sometimes it helps to remember that even in the mundane, life is not ordinary.



LifeWhat in your life, have you assumed, is ordinary but when taking another look, is actually extraordinary?
Here are some suggestions: When you walk your dog, can you see how happy she is to frolic in nature? When your baby wakes up crying, then sees you and she stops crying and smiles, how does that make you feel? When you’re running late and someone holds a door open for you, do you feel seen ? How else is your life less ordinary?

When you feel overwhelmed, low or anxious, it’s hard to see the extraordinary in life. Sometimes just noticing one thing helps. I can help you find what is extraordinary about your life– about you! Contact me here to learn more.

Does Food Affect Your Mood?

In an article written by Steve Holt on Takepart.com, Holt explores the ways in which what we eat has a direct influence on how we feel.

Dr. Bonnie Kaplan, a professor at the University of Calgary says that before the turn of the last century, food was used for healing purposes. Some foods are still used today to treat CXL-chicken-soup-recipes-homemade-chicken-soup-de-KYsYVo-97314619common physical ailments. For example, there’s chicken soup for a cold, ginger to relieve a stomach ache and honey to soothe a sore throat. “From around 1950 or so, there was an explosion of research on medications,” she says. “Big pharma took over the treatment of psychiatric illnesses, and we lost centuries of knowledge.”

Not only can food help to heal but it can also affect one’s mood. Notice how you feel after a big meal. Are you tired and listless? After eating a salad for lunch or dinner, with fresh vegetables, whole grains and protein, do you feel lighter and more energized? When you eat food comaprocessed burgers and candy, how do you feel physically and emotionally? Probably not so good. You may get an initial high but you may also experience a dramatic crash. When blood sugar plummets you may crave more of those foods in order to feel energized again. You may notice after eating that you feel up, both physically and psychologically but then you feel low, depressed and tired. It can become a vicious cycle.

“In a 2012 study with colleague Karen M. Davison, Ph.D., R.D., published in the Canadian Journal of Psychiatry, the authors recruited 97 adults diagnosed with a mood disorder to record their diets and moods (how they felt throughout each day) over a three-day period. At the end of the study, Kaplan and Davison found that participants’ vitamin and nutrient intake was “consistently and reliably” associated with better moods and mental health.”

I have found that neurofeedback happy and healthyis even more effective when sleep hygiene is practiced and “cleaner eating” is observed. Ironically, we can be drawn to sugar and caffeine when we are feeling depressed and anxious, however, consuming those substances can perpetuate those feelings. According to the article (and many studies) what we eat can not only affect our bodies but our brains as well.

To learn more about the relationship between food and mood and how neurofeedback and help you feel better, contact me.


To Be Happy, We Must Be Grateful

This time of year we are bombarded by that word, “grateful.” We’re expected to be grateful. peanuts thxgvgWhat happens when you don’t feel grateful but you are told that you should be?  What if you feel guilt or pain about not feeling grateful? What if the pain that you feel prevents you from noticing those things for which you are inherently grateful?

David Steindl-Rast, a monk and interfaith scholar gave a TED Talk about the “gentle power of gratefulness.” He says that if we can “stop, look and go,” we will be ok. It takes a lot of practice to do this but if we can stop the negative thoughts, look around at the gifts that we do have and go forward, we can be happy. It’s gratefulness that makes us happy. One way to build these muscles is through meditation. Another way is through neurofeedback. The type of neurofeedback system that I use, NeurOptimal, trains the brain to be more present- it stops the ruminating negative thoughts, which enables us to look at what we do have so that we may move forward.


Steindl-Rast says that we all want to be happy and in that, we are all connected. In order to live gratefully, not just this time of year, we need to be aware that every moment is a given moment and is therefore, a gift. I'm gratefulHe says, “If we didn’t have this present moment, we could have any opportunity to do anything or experience anything. The gift within the gift is the opportunity. What you are really grateful for is the opportunity, not the thing that has been given to you. We can avail ourselves of this opportunity, or we can miss it, and if we avail ourselves of the opportunity, it is the key to happiness. Behold the master key to our own happiness is in our own hands. Moment by moment, we can be grateful for this gift.”

The power of gratefulness can literally change the world. lotus in handSteindl-Rast says that, …”if you are grateful, you’re not fearful, and if you’re not fearful, you’re not violent. If you’re grateful, you act out of a sense of enough and not a sense of scarcity, and you are willing to share. If you are grateful, you are enjoying the differences between people, and you are respectful to everybody, and that changes this power pyramid under which we live.” In order to be happy, we must be grateful.

To learn more about NeurOptimal neurofeedback, click on this link. If you would like to talk about how neurofeedback can help you or to learn more about how to move through the pain that you are currently experiencing, feel free to contact me. I look forward to hearing from you.