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Is Change Good?

There is a wonderful Ted Talk given by Luke Syson, entitled, How I learned to stop worrying and love “useless” art. “Luke Syson was a curator of Renaissance art, of transcendent paintings of saints and solemn Italian ladies — serious art. And then he changed jobs, and inherited the Met’s collection of ceramics — pretty, frilly, “useless” candlesticks and vases. He didn’t like it. He didn’t get it.”

Syson talks about preparing to curate a show in which there are Leonardo da Vinci paintings. He discusses the beauty and complexity of the pieces. He has an obvious respect for the work and the artist. Then Syson discusses a turning point for him when he moves to another job where he will curate three dimensional pieces, sculptures- not paintings. He seems fine with the move until he actually sees a piece that will be a part of his show. Syson is horrified. The piece (at first) seems undignified, ugly, pointless and “useless” to him.


Eventually, Syson began to learn about, admire and even love the piece that he originally despised. When he changed his mind, he made me think about the necessity of change and how my clients (and I) deal with it.

People generally come to me because there is something that is about to change and they don’t like it or they want to make a change because they’re unhappy. Like Syson, they may be in a job that they don’t like but in order to make the job bearable, they try and find something positive about it. Syson was offered a new job and he knew that if he was going to enjoy it, he needed to find something about it that he liked. So, consciously or not, he began to look differently at the piece he once hated and now appreciates. Maybe he changed his mind because after learning more about the piece, he developed a real fondness for something that he once abhorred. The way that Syson talked about the object that he once looked down upon, he now talks about with admiration.

Change is a difficult but necessary part of life. The more we resist it, the stronger IT becomes. When we find something positive in something we fear or dislike, life gets a lot easier. A good therapist is someone who helps navigate the changes in your life and prepares you for accepting them and moving forward.

If there’s a challenge in your life that frightens you, that’s generally a precursor to change. How can we expect anything to be different if we keep doing the same things in the same ways? Let me help you feel strong enough to deal with the changes. Who knows, maybe you’ll eventually welcome them? For more information about me and how I can help you, contact me here.

What is Neurofeedback and How Does it Work?

Mike Cohen of the Center for Brain Training in Florida created an amazing video that explains what neurofeedback (NF) is and how it works. A lot of what Mike says about NF in his video has been my experience as well.

Mike explains, that for children, NF is commonly used for “ADHD, emotional and behavioral issues, learning and development delays and struggles in school. For adults, it’s generally used for anxiety, depression, obsessing and sleep problems. I love when Mike says, “With NF, the brain changes itself.” That’s exactly what happens. We use the tools that we already have in order to become better. Here’s Mike’s video.


The video also addresses the fact that yes, NF helps with problems, but it also helps with performance. Valdeane Brown, Ph.D., is the Founder, Director and President of the Zengar Institute and the creator of the system that I use, NeurOptimal®. He is an avid golf player. Shortly after taking up the game, Val was rated the most improved player. He believes this is due to his ability to return to the present moment and allow his brain to do what it had being learning to do- via NF trainings. He said that swinging the club just right, to get the ball to go just where he wanted it to go, was no easy task. Val found that with his own game (and the games of the athletes whom he trains) he was able to be in the game and not in his head. What a wonderful metaphor. To be able to concentrate on any task and not be stuck in one’s head, is a much easier (and more productive) way to go through life. Here’s a video of Val discussing golf and NeurOptimal®.

Much of what Mike discusses in his video is similar to my experience with NF but there are also some differences. The differences are in the systems that we use. With Mike’s system (and most NF systems), certain parts of the brain are being stimulated, while other parts are hindered. This can create side effects. With NeurOptimal®, the brain is simply interacting adaptively with itself moment by moment, not striving to produce “more” of some frequency and “less” of another according to an outside “expert”. Additionally, Mike uses tests to find out what is “wrong with the client.” With NeurOptimal®, there is no need for outside tests to “diagnose what’s wrong” or “what the central nervous system (CNS) needs”. You can simply allow the CNS to receive the pure information about itself — untainted by the beliefs of the trainer — and the brain organizes on its own. This is what the CNS is designed to do and NeurOptimal® is designed to rely on this inherent intelligence of the brain. As a result, the NeurOptimal® process is perfectly, effortlessly, natural. And this is true no matter what the problem is — even if there was a significant developmental delay or injury as far back as birth or even earlier. Every brain has the potential to optimize itself, if given the right information.

For more information about how NeurOptimal® can help you, feel free to contact me.